The title of this article sounds ridiculous, does it not? Yet most people look for happiness as if it is an object they can find if they just look long and hard enough. There is a relatively new field of psychology that studies the causes of happiness and what has and continues to emerge is that happiness is in the doing, not in the having.
It is found in the experiences we share with others as opposed to the material things that we so steadfastly believe will bring happiness. This is poignantly evidenced by deathbed utterances. What you will hear is, "I sure wish I had danced more, gone barefoot on the beach more, traveled more, spent more time with my family, and not sweated the small stuff." Oddly, the dying seems to have a crystal clear understanding of the true nature of happiness that is lost on the living.
Think about how many examples there are in your life of friends or acquaintances who choose to spend almost all of their leisure time on their couches in front of the television or surfing the web.(By the way, using the term "surfing" to describe an activity that involves sitting in a chair staring at a screen is a terrible disservice to a word that really means being outdoors in the glorious sunshine, carving up a triple set of turquoise blue waves.) Life will pass you by on your couch - I promise. Can you imagine a dying person saying, "Man, I sure wish I'd have stayed home and watched more TV"? The reason healthy people stay planted is just plain laziness in most cases. A walk in the woods with your love (spouse, partner, dog, friend all qualify) can be one of the most amazing things in the world.
You will have long forgotten the car, the clothes, the big screen TV. I love Fridays. We will share a meal then start planning our weekend. Who knows what's in store - the museum? a drive through the
bayou country? A trip to the zoo? I also know what we won't be doing - looking for happiness under the couch. Louisiana
By Edward Dunn
Article Source: EzineArticles