Happiness Is a Solo Thing

You have to remember and understand that happiness is a solo thing, where you can not make people around you feel happy if you yourself are not able to be happy. Even though we are being encouraged to not live life by ourselves, we will always need people around us, and to better ourselves, we need to interact with others and so on and so forth. The ONLY thing that can contradict this statement is towards your individual happiness. No one and I mean NO ONE has the power to make you happy. The same goes with, no one can see though your eyes, or hear for you, or make decision for you. You are the one controlling your own destiny and your own happiness.

For many, personal relationships are crucial to a happy life. So that means that we need others to make us happy right? I can't start contradicting myself when I say that we are the ONLY ones who can make ourselves happy when now, I am saying that we need others to be happy. So what is the actual reason to all that?

It is true, every human beings needs relationship with others to have a fulfilling life. But what is the meaning of fulfilling? What really fulfills you? Is it your perception to actions that will make you determine if that other person cares for you? Is it the blunt action with no emotion that will make you feel wanted or unwanted? If you are starving and you have a friend of yours giving you money to get food, you will feel cared for, you will feel that you have great importance in their lives for them not to let you starve to death. You will feel good and really enjoy that newly purchased edible items. However, if that same person throws you money in the floor with a disgust or demeaning look, you will no longer perceive that action as being genuine or caring. You will feel sad and worthless. Even though that same money will enable you to buy that same food, you will not enjoy it the same way because of the way it was presented to you. Again, it is all about perception. It is how it means to you personally through actions.

If you are positive, you will look at this scenario in the most positive way. How's that? Well, the bottom line is that you are being fed right? Regardless of how the money was presented to you. Even though the other person felt disgust giving you the money, you can look at it as: that person doesn't know you very well, they don't know your quality as a person, they have no idea what you've been through, and do not care to know the reasons either. That shows the quality of the other person regardless of the bottom line action. You've been fed, you can move on and that's that. In retrospect, the negative person will feel sadder, more ashamed on how that other person gave that money to get fed. Its all about perception ladies and gents.

If you are a happy person, no matter what others do, you will stay happy. It is true when people say: "Guns do not kill people, people kill people". Yes, you can have a gun, you can use it for the negative, but what does that make you? You need someone to pull the trigger right?

For every action, there is a reaction. It depends on how you approach each actions or scenarios in your daily life. For all potentially existing negative actions, it is up to you to transform it into a positive.

Let's say you have a problem with food. You eat too much of it. You are getting larger and larger. You are very sensitive about your weight but you keep going at it because of hormonal imbalance. Now, it is not 100% your fault, (maybe just 99%) but it is out of your control. Friends and family do their best to share their advice by helping you with getting gym membership (which they paid), or to attend Weight Watchers meeting and so on and so forth. Because of this emotional roller coaster, you take all of this as an insult. You feel they see you as fat, or ugly or both. Even though it was for your best interest, you perceived it otherwise. It all depends on how you choose to accept it. Hey, you are getting a free gym membership out of it, might as well take advantage and get yourself back in shape and benefit from the new and sexier body.

Throughout your life, you will have family and friends that will care for you, that will want the best for you, that will do anything and everything in their power to make you happy. However, at the end, YOU are the ONLY one who can make this happen. YOU are theONLY one who can make yourself happy. So get started by changing your perception and make yourself comfortable with everything that is coming your way, good or bad. Learn to see the good or positive side of every situation. I can promise you it will make your life much happier.

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Happiness is at everyone's doorstep. Mother Theresa once said: "There is NO key to happiness, because the door is ALWAYS open."

Happiness is within everyone's reach, it is a power we all possess, nobody can sell it or give it to you from the goodness of their heart. It is self-acquired. There is a say about education: " Anyone can take away your house, your car, your wealth, but NO one can take away your education, knowledge and know-how". The same goes with happiness. If you know how to be happy, no one can make you feel otherwise and you can regain happiness at any given time in your life. It is SELF-ACQUIRED.

AS I said previously, happiness is a state of mind, and no one can state how you feel at any given moment.

Once you learn to appreciate others for who they are to you and not because of how they can make you feel, either happy or unhappy, you will get closer to understand how you can make yourself happy. If you don't expect anything from others, you save yourself from possible disappointment. It is because of what others DON'T give you that you go and look for it yourself.

Learn to free yourself from the control of others and get rid of excuses. Take action and you will feel fulfilled and happy. Have a happy day!

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